How To Stop Constant Worrying

The first tool I like to use is mindfulness meditation. 

It’s not just a buzzword; it’s a practical approach to gaining control over our run-away thoughts.

Imagine a peaceful garden with birds chirping and a gentle breeze rustling through the leaves. 

This serene place exists in your mind; you can visit it anytime you feel overwhelmed. 

As an example, let me guide you through a simple meditation. 

Close your eyes, take a deep breath, hold it for a moment, and release slowly. 

Focus on your breath. 

As thoughts arise, acknowledge them, but let them float by like leaves on a river. 

Return your focus to your breath each time. 

With each breath, imagine drawing in peace and calm, and as you exhale, visualize letting go of any anxious thoughts or worries. 

Feel your body becoming more and more relaxed with each breath.

Now, let’s gently return to the present moment to continue our video.

This practice can help you anchor in the present moment, reducing worry.

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In addition to mindfulness meditation, cognitive restructuring is our second strategy.

Cognitive restructuring is a core part of cognitive-behavioral therapy. 

It involves identifying and challenging the irrational or unhelpful thoughts that fuel worry. 

Let’s say you’re anxious about an upcoming work presentation. 

Instead of thinking, “I’m going to mess up,” reframe it to, “I have prepared well, and I can handle this.” 

By systematically questioning and altering these negative beliefs, you can reduce the intensity of your worries.

For example, let’s look at a samurai named Hiroshi, who lived centuries ago. 

Hiroshi was not only skilled with a sword but also faced battles within his own mind. 

When fighting he tried to anticipate his opponents every move instead of being in the present moment.

Before every duel, he was plagued with doubts about his skills and the fear of dishonor or defeat. 

Thoughts like, “What if I fail?”, “Can I really win this battle?” and “Am I truly worthy?” often haunted him.

One day, while practicing, Hiroshi met an old monk who noticed his inner turmoil and introduced him to cognitive restructuring, which involves changing how you think about life.

The monk taught Hiroshi to identify the irrational beliefs that underpinned his anxiety and challenge them with logic and evidence from his past experiences.

Together, they revisited battles Hiroshi had won, focusing on his training, strategy, and courage. 

For each negative thought, the monk encouraged Hiroshi to counter it with evidence of his competence and bravery. 

Instead of thinking, “What if I fail?” Hiroshi learned to think, “I have trained my whole life and succeeded before; I am prepared and capable.”

Hiroshi changed his emotional response to his worries by reshaping his thoughts and meditating. 

The night before a duel, instead of being consumed by fear, he meditated on his new beliefs, focusing on his strength and past victories. 

His newfound mental discipline quelled his anxieties and enhanced his focus and prowess in battle.

This story of Hiroshi illustrates the immense power of cognitive restructuring. 

It’s not just a tool, it’s a training method for the mind, honing it to be strong, flexible, and resilient. 

This means you have the power to reshape your thoughts and conquer your worries. 

By mastering his thoughts, Hiroshi could face his fears on the battlefield and in his day-to-day life, achieving a legendary status among his peers.

When the day of the duel arrived, Hiroshi met his opponent and no longer tried to analyze and anticipate what his opponent might do.

He took a few deep breaths, felt his chest expand and contract, and felt his feet firmly planted on the floor.

Instead of analyzing, he followed the flow of his opponent’s moves.

Because he didn’t try to worry and anticipate, he anticipated everything, became one with his sword, and found flaws in his opponent’s attacks.

Without realizing it, his opponent was knocked down, and the duel was one by Hiroshi.

Breaking the worry cycle isn’t about a single quick fix; it’s about a series of steps that together forge a stronger, more resilient mindset. 

Like Hiroshi, the samurai, who not only trained his body but also mastered the control of his thoughts, you too can learn to manage and mitigate the impact of worry in your life. 

It takes practice, patience, and persistence.

Thank you for joining me on this journey to a calmer, more peaceful life. 

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I encourage you to keep practicing these techniques and to share your progress. 

Stay positive, friends.